My siblings would disagree with me, but I couldn’t be more sure that my parents cannot stand each other. It’s not just old age, it’s not simply differing views. It’s complete lack of consideration, respect, and affection for each other. There’s a resentment, a spitefulness, a darkness to their relationship, that is at least to me, incredibly obvious. Despite not being bound legally, they have stayed together. Possibly for us, their children, as well as for financial reasons and conformity.
I’m sure many people would think I’m crazy for saying what I’m about to say, but sometimes I wish my parents divorced and lived in different homes. I would give up the nice house, the comfort and the luxury we live in now to have an actual home. Both of them together in one space doesn’t make a home, it makes for a toxic environment full of negativity and cynicism. Although the struggle to live day to day would be very real if they divorced, I feel as though their mental states would be much more healthy. They would be happier.
Happiness isn’t only possible in the traditional way. So yes, I wish my parents hadn’t stayed together for us, for the convenience, to save face, to accomplish their material dreams…I wish they divorced.
But there is one thing they have taught me about relationships, and that’s what NOT to do. And aside from life it’s been the best gift they have given me. I’ve only been in two relationships in my 21 years of life, I’m currently in one of them. And quite frankly they’ve lasted more, and have been much healthier than the relationships of my peers. I’m not trying to boast, I’m just saying that I’ve learned there are certain things that make a relationship work. There are certain standards that must be met no matter what, and both my relationships have followed that.
If I continue to have relationships like these I have no doubt that my romantic life will be filled with positivity.
So I’m sorry mom and dad that your marriage didn’t turn out to be what you probably hoped it’d be but it’s made me set my standards higher, and so far it’s worked out.